ARE YOU LISTENING..OR MERELY HEARING?
TO BEGIN WITH...
YOU SHOULD NEVER EAT ANYTHING AT ONE SITTING..THAT YOU CAN NOT LIFT.
THE WORD LISTEN CONTAINS THE SAME LETTERS AS THE WORD SILENT.
SILENCE IS HAVING NOTHING TO SAY…AND SAYING IT.
KEEPING YOUR CHIN UP…ALSO KEEPS YOUR MOUTH CLOSED.
ARE YOU LISTENING OR MERELY HEARING?
By Lou Goldstein
THE ONLY WAY TO ENTERTAIN SOME PEOPLE IS TO JUST LISTEN TO THEM.
This chapter is a case of do as I say...not as I do !
One of my main faults (I'm sure I have others) is thinking about what I am going to say next when I am in a discussion with someone. This is no good. I'm not listening...I'm merely hearing. The result is that I miss out on a lot of what the other person is saying and I have a tendency to sometimes interrupt that person before they are finished (which is rude.)
I'm working on it and maybe if I read what I have discovered in my research about the difference between LISTENING AND HEARING I might eliminate one of my faults (which will give me more time to work on the others.)
Do you think there is a difference between hearing and listening? You are right, there is!
Hearing is simply the act of perceiving sound by the ear. If you are not hearing-impaired…hearing simply happens.
Listening, however, is something you consciously choose to do. Listening requires concentration …. so that your brain processes meaning from words and sentences. Listening leads to learning.
Most people tend to be "hard of listening" rather than"hard of hearing."
Most of us "hear" what is said to us... and we also feel that we"listen" well, too. However, there is a big difference between hearing and listening. Let’s look at several distinctive differences between the two.
If you are thinking about what you are going to say after the person speaking to you stops speaking…you are hearing them ...NOT listening to them. If you listen to them…they may give you a better idea about what you might say.
When we hear what is being said, those words are transferred from our ears to our brain and then we often nod in agreement or disagreement or do nothing at all.
Hearing is passive, only involves our ears and involves little to no passion. We simply take in what has been said and then go on from there. In addition, hearing is oftenemotionless, involuntary and shows little feeling for another. Basically, hearing is the way we understand the meaning of sound, the vibrations that come from it.
Listening on the other hand, is complex, active and often will seek out further information and participate more in what is being said. Listening often gives the impression to others by the way we look and act, that we care about... and want the best for others.A good listener is one who actively hears what is said. The listening process involves various required stages... understanding, attending, receiving, remembering and responding.
Listening also shows that we’re interested in another’s point of view, beliefs and feelings.
By listening we show to others that we want to know what they’re thinking, what they like or don’t like and that we respect them as a human being. When we want someone to listen to us, we want most of all to be acknowledged that we’re a human being and to be appreciated for whom we are and what we’re doing with our lives.
When a person strives to becomea good listener, they are on the way to become a better and
more effective communicator. When you understand better how important it is to communicate well, you begin to see the importance of not just passively hearing, but actively listening.
Finally, effective and concentrated listening is vital to our personal and professional lives because listening helps to keep us informed, keep us out of trouble and to do what needs to be done. And by listening well ...we are perceived by others to be more valuable and appreciated. And, by listening we become more knowledgeable... and from that knowledge we can become better in most everything we do.
THE BEST WAY TO BE A GOOD TALKER…IS TO LEARN TO LISTEN
If you can start the day without caffeine...If you can always be cheerful ignoring aches and pains... If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles...If you can eat the same food every day and be grateful for it...If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time...If you can take criticism and blame without resentment ...If you can relax without liquor, If you can sleep without the aid of drugs......Then You Are Probably ............................
The Family Dog!
See you next time,